The Sibling Relationship

Do you love and hate someone at the same time? Your love for them is to an extent that you can even give your kidney without a second thought if needed but won’t share a chocolate? That’s the quirky kind of relationship you can only have with your sibling.

 

Your relationship with your brother or sister shapes your life in ways you are unaware. Your sibling is your first playmate, your best friend and for some, equivalent to a parent. There are different psychological impacts depending on whether you have a younger sibling or an elder one. Sibling relationship influences your development, social skills and your ability to adjust to different environments. It plays a significant role in your life just as parenting do.  Siblings can also serve as a source of comfort home vibes. Your relation with your sibling narrates the kind of personality you possess.

“A lack of siblings may still shape your life in some ways, but it is only one influence among many.” says Anderson University psychologist Susan Doughty.

 

As much as you love them, you always find yourself fighting with them over silly stuff. Sibling rivalries are normal. To strengthen the bond and express how much you love them, here’s a list of some movies you can watch this Rakshabandhan weekend:

Dil Dhadakne Do

Hum Saath Saath Hain

My Brother … Nikhil

Dhanak

Bumm Bumm Bole

Sibling relationship is a lifelong journey of loving, understanding and supporting each other (while fighting over a TV remote).

The internal battle is real, anxious people aren’t rude!

Have people misinterpreted you as egoistic?

Have you ever been dismissed as ‘being rude’ when you were just anxious?

Majority of people with anxiety issues face this never-ending pattern of being misunderstood as a rude person. They are not being paranoid, they are just fighting an internal battle which most of you know nothing about. People often find people with anxiety as unfriendly but the truth is that they are just trying to fit in. Trust me they are doing their best to behave normal. Though we all are well aware how important our mental peace is, stigma still happens to surround this topic.

You must be eager to know about the anxiety habits in detail so that you do not hurt someone, (even accidently). Let’s peer into the mind of someone with anxiety issues.

1.       Dicey - I usually feel excited when I have to meet people but when the actual moment comes, I feel all drained, emotionally absent, super awkward and unattached. It is not something that I choose to do but it just happens because of the mental illness I have. It doesn’t mean I don’t want to meet people.

2.       Awkward behavior- If I seem impolite or inhospitable when we first meet, it’s not because I have ego issues, this happens when I feel insecure. I feels like people will never know the real me because of my anxiety which always finds a way to interrupt my social life.

3.       Zoning out- I often zone out and may fail to catch onto my surroundings. It does not mean I am ignoring anyone or they are boring. I get so freaked out that I might miss out the whole conversation.

4.       Cancelling plans – If I do so understand that I do care about your plans but this meeting is already haunting me because of the lack of confidence (comes free with anxiety). I begin to feel exhausted just by the thought of meeting people. I don’t hate you but it is what it is. Anxiety sucks, right?

5.       Difficulty talking- it’s a huge task for me to make conversations. Understand if I am not good at small talks. I am already fighting anxiety, I do not wish another battle. When anxiety hits, I do not have the energy to talk, it doesn’t mean I am mad at you. I have this constant fear of being judged.

 

Now that you know how difficult it might be for some people, try to be kind to them. Remember, anxiety isn’t a choice, it is real and feels like a nightmare.

There is help, please reach out for it @roohbrew. Anxiety is treatable.